“Every man who knocks on the door of a brothel is looking for God.” – G. K. Chesterton
It’s astounding how frequently men will risk complete compromise of their values, their marriage and their reputation to pursue a short-term enticement.
We joke that men have two heads and only enough blood to run one of them at a time but the truth is it goes a lot deeper than just physical desire. There is something captivating and bewitching about sex that can blind and blunt the conscience and common sense of men who are not whole. Like the sirens of Greek mythology who lured passing sailors with their enchanting music and voices to shipwreck on the rocky coast of their island. Read More
Miracle workers and magic makers, no-one exemplifies grace and beauty more than a mom in action. The sweet, healing balm of a mother’s love touches every aspect of her child’s life. It soothes bruised egos, restores broken hearts, lifts up discouraged souls, and feeds hungry tummies. A good mom is a priceless gift to her children. She is both a soft nurturing sanctuary and a fierce protective shield. So many men and women are who they are today because of a selfless, loving and wise mom.
I am utterly convinced that if we could somehow place a good man in every household in South Africa crime would come to a grinding halt, our police force would become all but redundant and social services would never have to leave their offices.
Happy Mother’s Day to all the incredibly strong and beautiful moms out there; our partners in parenting, and invaluable gifts to our world.
Burning at the core of every child’s heart are some questions that beg to be answered. And the man who needs to answer is their father.
Who am I dad? What am I made of? Am I enough dad? Am I strong enough, smart enough, attractive enough? These questions are asked of every dad a thousand times in a thousand different ways. The boy who runs out to greet his dad with a boisterous tackle when he comes home from work is crying out, “look how strong I am dad! Am I strong enough?” The girl who dresses up in mom’s oversize dress and parades in front of dad is crying out, “look how beautiful I am dad! Am I beautiful enough?” Miss enough of these moments and you miss your child’s heart forever. Catch these moments and answer the question well and you will gift your child with an unshakeable emotional foundation. Read More
A father is the most important man in his children’s lives. He is his daughter’s first romance and his son’s first hero. Every boy longs to be mentored by his dad and every girl longs to be adored by him.
At the heart of fatherhood is masculinity. Yet we live in a world in which the definition and perception of masculinity is mired in confusion and negativity. The media image of masculinity has degenerated to the point where it is more often reviled than revered. Men are portrayed as everything from emotionally incompetent layabouts to posers and philanderers.
The feminine soul is one of the greatest treasures of the universe.
Its beauty has no equal. Yet like all treasures of great value it has enemies. Two beasts in particular attack the heart of a woman’s beauty and femininity; the first is the lie that popular media perpetrates about her beauty and the second is the wound to her feminine soul that the men in her life inflict on her, at times unknowingly, at times deliberately.
The rewards of engaging with our children by entering their world are rich beyond measure. There is so much beauty and joy we can rediscover by seeing life through their eyes.
When was the last time you danced with your kids?
Where is the image of true masculinity to be found? Is it in the round-house kick of Chuck Norris or in the decaf latte of the tame metrosexual?
Is masculinity epitomised by the pot-bellied, middle aged, suburban man in front of the sports channel sipping beer and yelling advice to a team of men he has never met, or by the suave wall-street broker in a pin-striped suit? Does the tough inner city gang member embody masculinity or the outdoor man hiking through the wilderness? The image of true masculinity is as varied as the number of people you ask.
Men have been given great responsibility for the lives and families and communities in their care, and they have been given great strength to fulfill these responsibilities. There are many good men using their strength to provide, nurture, protect and care for their families but unfortunately there are also a great many men who are getting it wrong and causing untold damage in the process.