Hands down my greatest challenge as a divorced dad was remaining a deeply engaged father in my children’s lives with a co parent who was no longer my partner, whose feelings towards me were less than hospitable and whose ideas about parenting came from a different manual than mine. As parents we don’t get to escape the “till death do us part” clause even after divorce. Our exes remain part of our lives for as long as we are both alive. And our children need us to make this relationship work.
Telling my children that their mom and I were getting divorced was probably the hardest conversation I have ever had. My son Luke was 11 at the time and my daughter Blythe 8. My heart broke as I looked into their sad, shocked eyes. It took everything I had to stop my tears from flowing. Their lives were being turned upside down by the two people they trusted and relied on most in the world.
Happy Mother’s Day to all the incredibly strong and beautiful moms out there; our partners in parenting, and invaluable gifts to our world.
The rewards of engaging with our children by entering their world are rich beyond measure. There is so much beauty and joy we can rediscover by seeing life through their eyes.
When was the last time you danced with your kids?